“Don’t Dream It, Be It” – The Value of Something Better
In the cult classic film The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Dr. Frank N. Furter sings, “Don’t Dream It, Be It.” Admittedly, his context is rather different from my own, but I love the sentiment. If you’re like me, some portion of your “thinking time” (in the shower, in bed at night, while worshipping, whenever) leads to your reflecting on something better. Something better: it can be a blessing or can be a curse based on how we think about it and what we do about it as individuals.
The Something Better of the Past: When we look back on the various decisions in our past, certain poor ones may have an outsized impact on our lives today. We can choose to view where we are, and think “If I’d only done X instead of Y, things would be so much better for me.” Or we can make the positive choice to live with acceptance of the consequences of our earlier decisions, hopefully learn from them, and ideally not look upon them with regrets. Then look forward to how to make our something better in the near term.
The Something Better of the Present or the Near-Term Future: When we examine where we are today, it’s tempting to forever dream of improving our circumstances by living somewhere else, by associating with other people, or by pursuing a different professional direction. Such dreams can be the critical path to personal fulfillment and growth, or the road to disappointments based on our willingness (or unwillingness) to act on them. Put simply, dreaming of something better without taking action to make those dreams a reality is the road to extreme frustration. We envision the something better as optimal, but our current situation becomes increasingly unbearable by comparison if we don’t take tangible steps toward something better. But by using something better as a way to motivate ourselves to action, we suddenly become dynamic players in creating our own futures. And something better becomes the animating influence for a greater sense of personal growth and fulillment.
The Something Better of the Societal, Longer-Term Future: When we envision something better for society in the next decade, or the next generation, it brings to mind (at least for me), unbelievable excitement. I think of the innovations to come. I think of the things today that my children (and their children) will someday find “quaint”, and I smile. Few things frustrate me more than reading an article, some variety of which appears every so often, citing a poll indicating that X% of people believe they’ll have a lower standard of living than the prior generation. The dream of something better on a societal, long-term level may be the closest thing on earth to a universally-shared goal. But the something better of the societal future does not emerge by accident. It only emerges when societies are organized in ways that encourage individuals to try to do things that make things better. Put differently, societies don’t change the future. Individuals change the future, and certain political, economic, and societal structures have proven more successful than others in driving progress. Societies that reward hard work and individual initiative are those most likely to make the dream a reality. For those that do not, the societal dream of something better is little more than utopian fantasy.
The Something Better of the Next Life: The vision of an everlasting life in paradise is powerful. It, too, can make this life seem magnificent or hellish or depending on our approach. It is admittedly easy to look at our day-to-day challenges and even the broader levels of pain and suffering in this world, and feel that in the context of “forever”, it’s just a blip. Our physical lifetimes are something to just be endured so we can get to the good stuff. Or as the Righteous Brothers succinctly put it in their song Rock and Roll Heaven, “If you believe in forever, then life is just a one night stand.” Such a view can bring comfort during our times of greatest despair. But it can also be a cause of despair…if we allow ourselves to simply float along in this life as we await the next life, we miss out on the chance shape our time here. And we run the risk of dulling ourselves to the magnitude of the joys (and, yes, the sorrows) that are a part of our life on earth. But a deep belief in something better in the afterlife need not cause withdrawal from this world. It is more than possible to remain fully engaged in creating our own something better in this world while awaiting the something better that lies beyond.
Thus it is that the vision of something better, in all its forms, can be a curse or a blessing. If we think of what could have been, then choose to constantly revisit past decisions that brought us here, then it is a curse. If we think wistfully of what our own lives could be, then choose to passively remain in our current state without taking action to improve it, then it is a curse. If we dream of a wonderful future for society, but advocate approaches that offer utopian hope based on societal will rather than individual initiative, then it is a curse. If we dream of a next-life paradise and use that as an excuse to “check out” from fully living and experiencing this world, then it is a curse.
But if we use the vision of something better:
-To accept our decisions of the past without regret
-To take actions that move us closer to our near-term, personal dreams
-To advocate sometimes-difficult policies that move our society toward long-term dreams
-And to choose to live fully and deeply today, in this life, and to strive to make our something better a reality
Then the vision of something better is indeed a blessing and something of nearly limitless value. So to paraphrase the venerable (?) Dr. Frank N. Furter, don’t just dream of something better. Be something better and make something better.
